And then things got weird.

So over the last few months, we've had a falling out with my MIL.  And really, I should have seen it coming.  I mean, hello, first red flag was when she called me after Ghost and I got engaged and said she wanted to come fly to CA 2 days later to meet my mom and I.  Then once there, tried to get me to move to CO, but not move in with Ghost.  She wanted me and the Punk to get our own place for 6 months.  I told her no, and to kindly butt out.  I obviously should have been more up front at the beginning.

She's not a bad or mean person by any means.  She just doesn't understand boundaries at all.  Not to mention, the kids get treated differently.  And I get it to a degree.  The Punk is her step grandchild, and she's missed 7 years of her life and bonding time with her.  But she gets super butt hurt like a child if the Punk doesn't want to play with her, or if she doesn't say hi to her.  She's a fucking kid.  You're an adult.  She acts like a kid, so you act like an adult!

Anyway, back on track.  The beginning of December was the Next Messiah's birthday.  We had plans with her that she would come up for that weekend and visit.  Well, about 2 weeks before, she had asked if her and I could skype.  I said the next day would be better.  So the next day I get a text around noon asking if I was ready.  Well, I wasn't.  I have 3 fucking kids and my time table doesn't always jive with when she's ready.  So a few hours later she texts me back and says, "I'll take your silence as my answer".  I thought it was rude and passive agressive, and was about to text her back to tell her that.  Instead, I told Ghost to deal with it.  He did.  But she can't ever see that she's done wrong in ANY situation.  So she refused to see where he was coming from, and so we put her on a little time out.

The Next Messiah's birthday was coming up that following weekend, when Ghost decided to end the time out.  The next day, the ex wife asks if MIL is coming to The Next Messiah's birthday party.  I said I didn't think so, hadn't heard from her.  So the ex wife lets me know that she is in fact coming.  She apparently went behind our backs and texted the ex wife to get the info on the party.  Ghost was pissed.  She has no reason to contact the ex wife.  So when he confronted MIL about it, she again, saw nothing that she did wrong.  They get into a huge fight, she starts telling him he's not a man and making other rude comments.  At this point, the ex wife has already told The Next Messiah that MiMi was coming, so there was nothing we could do about that, so we told her to come and we would see her at the party, but wouldn't be available otherwise.

The party was super awkward, and I ended up getting in a fight with the ex wife over her wanting the Next Messiah to be able to spend time with her, and me saying no.  After that weekend, Ghost decided he was done for a while and she was another time out.  Fast forward to the next weekend, we get a text from her saying she flew into town and wants to talk.  Who does that???  Who flies from Texas to Colorado, un-invited, to talk?  So Ghost told her that she was not welcome here under no uncertain terms, and that this was a prime example of her not respecting our time.  She was also told she was no longer welcome for Christmas.  They kept going back and forth, via text and she just kept digging a bigger and bigger hole for herself.

Ghost decides to call his sister to see if she's heard about this, and to see where she's at with it all.  Of course, she was on MIL's side.  Ghost and his sister get into it, and he decides after hanging up on her, he's done with them both and wants no more contact.  And we haven't heard anything.  I sent a thank you note to his sister and his mother for the Christmas gifts they sent to the kids, but otherwise, there has been no contact.  And then, I get this text today from his sister: Hi there.  I got your wonderful note.  I really appreciated that.  Not sure where things stand, but I'll be in Colorado Jan 19-24th.  Take care.

I don't know how to respond.  I'm not sure I will.  I need to talk to Ghost about it and see if he wants me to, or if he wants to.  What would you do?